I bought Sex and the City dvds last weekend and started watching it almost every night before going to bed. Im already on Season 5 :P
Remember Berger? Carrie's boyfriend who broke up with her on a post it, the one with all the verbal chemistry, the guy that they all wanted to work but didn't? Well, before the drama of their breakup, he was actually an excellent boyfriend. At a dinner with the girls + Berger, Miranda was telling them about her date with this new guy. The date apparently went well, they had fun, they kissed, but when he brought her home, he wouldn't come up because he had to get up early the next day. Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda, and even Samantha were all trying to analyze what happened and came up with several ideas as to why the guy wouldn't come up, all ideas pointing to the positive that he's gonna call, etc, etc. (you know how girls can overanalyze every detail in any quasi-relationship, it's an art we perfect through time) So then Miranda then asks Berger for his "guy opinion" and he says that for guys, it only means one thing, he goes on to say, "He's just not that into you."
Clear. Black and White. Right there. No frills. No hidden emotions behind it. That's just it. According to Miranda, it's cool that she finally knows how it works for men, it supposedly softens the blow, presupposing that he doesn't like you enough, so you won't ever expect anything back. Sort of like a warning before you get hit in the face. Maybe so, but whatever, a blow is a blow is a blow, no matter how many warning bells you get.
He's just not that into you.